Folks!
I started not to do one of these this year. I just wanted to keep things as simple as possible. As I looked back on my previous posts like this from last year and the year before, I thought it was kind of cool and decided I couldn’t pass it up. So here I am! It’s cool to go back and reread these and see what I was thinking a year ago, how I sounded and what my goals were. It definitely gives me something concrete to go back to and reflect. I can look at it and ask myself, “Did I accomplish what I set out to do this year?” Some things I have to give a lot of thought, while an easy answer comes for others.
It’s not even about making New Year’s Resolutions anyway. A lot of the time, I come up with those silly things and rarely stick to them. So I just use the opportunity to make new goals, just like the ones I make any other day, not just because a new year is rolling in. My goals always have to do with becoming a better person. I strive to do that with each day, but as the New Year rolls in, it gives me the chance to reflect on the past year and see where I am in the bigger picture of my life and where I’d like to be within the next year.
Every day is a learning experience, but when I look back at 2009, I see tremendous growth within myself. The person I was on January 1st, 2009 is definitely not the same person sitting here on December 31, 2009. I’ve had plenty good times, and just as many bad times in the same year. It’s in those tough times where I redefine myself. I’ve grown in every aspect possible: emotionally, mentally, physically (well maybe not so much LOL), and definitely spiritually.
I strive to continue to grow in all of those areas in 2010! I’ll be 20, no longer a ‘teen. That’s pretty exciting! I figure this age brings on a completely new era in my life. Twenty. Man, I like how that sounds! I haven’t decided yet what it really means to me. I’ll have to get back at you with that one when my birthday rolls around. TWENTY!! 20! Ha!
But anyways…I want to really focus on me this year. Get back down to the essence of LaDai, who I truly I am. I’d like to think that if there’s anything in life I’ve got figured out 100%....it’s myself. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case! As people, we’ve got to understand that we’re always in a constant state of becoming, we’re never “finished” with anything…when you’re finished, you’re dead. There’s always something we can do to improve ourselves. Whether it’s to accomplish a goal or do something you’ve never tried before, there’s always wiggle room for improvement and growth.
I think too much. Luckily, that works out for me in a number of situations, but it’s an obstacle as well because I lack spontaneity. I’m the least bit impulsive. I’ve got to know who, what, when, where, and why before I do anything. So in 2010, I’m going to leap before I look! I’m not saying I’m going to be reckless now, don’t twist my words…lol…But these are the years of my life. I want to look back in 5 years and say I did everything I wanted to do exactly how I wanted to. I don’t want to look back and see all the opportunities and fun I missed out on because I always have to look before I leap!
So in 2010, here’s to leaping before you look! Do what (and who, jkjk lol) you want, when you want, where you want, how you want…etc…all that good stuff lol…Every day is your day, just live life! If you happen to stumble on some things you regret, it’s all good as long as you learn from it! Ladi Dadi is living it up in 2010!!
Peace and blessings in the new year!
~LaDai
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Friday, October 30, 2009
Hey there stranger!
I know I said I'd try to post more often lol...I have an idea for a new blog. Once I get it up and going, I will definitely share!
Well after my last post, I tried out 2 different foundations. One didn't work for me and the other, I absolutely adore!
The first one I tried was Maybelline's new Super Stay liquid foundation in Cocoa. Now, I do believe it's a good product (low price, I got mine from Wal-Mart) and I recommend this for any ladies out there looking for something that lasts and doesn't smudge or smear. It just did not work for me. I don't know if I mention in the last post or not, but I have super oily skin. I found out the hard way, but liquid foundation and my skin don't belong together. I used it for about a week and was pleased until my skin started reacting badly to it (clogged pores --> pimples --> cramped my style lol). So I had to go bare for a week until my skin cleared up. Then, a friend of mine recommended something that I'm soooo happy I tried!
M.A.C. Studio Fix Powder Foundation! I spent more $$ on it than I was willing, but it is indeed worth EVERY penny! My color is NW45. I love this foundation! For one, it works with my oily skin, and it leaves me looking, smooth and shine free (most of the day). I retouch maybe one time during the day and I'm good. I could go on and on about this, but I won't for length's sake. I've just never been this pleased with a product before!
It's the weekend and lately I've been feeling some kind of way. I don't want to do anything, but relax, study, and go to church Sunday morning!
Well after my last post, I tried out 2 different foundations. One didn't work for me and the other, I absolutely adore!
The first one I tried was Maybelline's new Super Stay liquid foundation in Cocoa. Now, I do believe it's a good product (low price, I got mine from Wal-Mart) and I recommend this for any ladies out there looking for something that lasts and doesn't smudge or smear. It just did not work for me. I don't know if I mention in the last post or not, but I have super oily skin. I found out the hard way, but liquid foundation and my skin don't belong together. I used it for about a week and was pleased until my skin started reacting badly to it (clogged pores --> pimples --> cramped my style lol). So I had to go bare for a week until my skin cleared up. Then, a friend of mine recommended something that I'm soooo happy I tried!
M.A.C. Studio Fix Powder Foundation! I spent more $$ on it than I was willing, but it is indeed worth EVERY penny! My color is NW45. I love this foundation! For one, it works with my oily skin, and it leaves me looking, smooth and shine free (most of the day). I retouch maybe one time during the day and I'm good. I could go on and on about this, but I won't for length's sake. I've just never been this pleased with a product before!
It's the weekend and lately I've been feeling some kind of way. I don't want to do anything, but relax, study, and go to church Sunday morning!
Saturday, October 3, 2009
Fresh Faced!
So I've become a fan of make up and I want to step my game up some! I mean I think I'm already on point, but there's already room for improvement. So I'd like to put some make up karma out there in hopes of gaining some for myself. Hopefully, this helps someone out there.
For one, I didn't start wearing make up until the end of my senior year in high school. Then secondly, I didn't know a thing! I was so scared to try any colors out of fear that it wouldn't go well with my skin color/tone. I started off just wearing eye liner and lip glosses. Then I got into mascara and eye shadows. As far as foundation, I still don't wear it on the regular, just on special occassions. Everything I know about make up, I found through the internet and friends.
The main thing that I do is my eye shadows! LOVE them. I think my eyes are my best features so I like to make that my focus. For eyeshadows, I use mostly Covergirl. Their Queen Collection (QC) line is pretty good. I have trio and quad palettes like Golden Sunset, Dazzling Metallics, Coffee Shop, and Desert Bronze (which is from the QC). I have singles like Emerald and Copper Penny (which are both from the QC). I have a quad of purples that my friend gave me from a line called Ulta. As far as everyday wear, I stick to golds, bronzes, and earth tones. I like to play with colors like purple and green, depends on the shade of the color. I haven't really tried any other colors though. I like metallics for when I go out. And the classic smokey eye for special occassions. As far as eyeliner, I'll use anything. I just buy the cheap liner from the beauty supply stores. I have tried a few things as far as mascara. I have used Mabelline XXL Extensions--great if you like long and thick lashes. I have also used Colossal Volum' by Maybelline--hated it! Maybe I had a defective tube, but it was super messy and clumpy! I have Wet n' Wild Mega Volume for the days when I want super thick lashes--love this one. I also have Maybelline's Lash Stiletto--absolutely adore this mascara! Best I've used yet! It's great if you like your lashes long. I usually use 2-3 coats and get the thickness that I like, too.
Love the luscious lips! I use alot of different things on my lips, from glosses to chap sticks to colors. I'll just share my fav products for this section. I like Rimmel's Lasting Finish Lipstick. I have it in Birthday Suit and Fudge Brownie. BS is more of a nude color, I wear it under my tinted glosses for a pop of color. FB is a soft brown color that I wear alone. Sometime's I'll even mix the two. They are great, though! I have Avon Glazewear in Chocolate Fling. It's great, nice and creamy, shimmery finish. Umm...Covergirl Wetslicks Wine Shine. This one doesn't last that long, but the color and shine is great! I LOVE Bath and Body Works lip glosses! I have their Liplicious in Brown Sugar. It tastes great, has a super smooth and shiny finish, sheer tone, it's just great! I also have their Soda Fountain in Hot Fudge Sundae (which they discontinued *sad face*). As far as lip colors, I stick to sheer browns, bronzes, and wine colors. I have never tried the red lip. I don't know what shade would look good on my skin tone.
The foundations that I do own....a color from the Covergirl QC called True Ebony and a color from Mary Kay Bronze 2. I am very careful what I put on my skin as far as foundations go. I have SUPER Oily skin, it's unbelieveable. I don't break out as much as I used to, but I do suffer the occasional pimple because of oiliness. Neither one of my foundations help with oiliness. If I could find a product that did, I would definitely try it out. I am not that willing to put my time and money into figuring out which products work for my skin type, because I don't want to be disappointed and broke! So I skip on the foundation! Any suggestions are definitely welcome, though.
Hmmm...I think that's it. I hope this isn't too long.
Oh, and I don't use blush. I always thought it wasn't necessary because black girls don't blush so I just never incorporated it into my routine.
Any tips, tricks, colors, and/or suggestions...are very welcome!
~LaDai
PS: I was super bored when I wrote this lol...and it took me forever...gave me something to do for a while though lol...
For one, I didn't start wearing make up until the end of my senior year in high school. Then secondly, I didn't know a thing! I was so scared to try any colors out of fear that it wouldn't go well with my skin color/tone. I started off just wearing eye liner and lip glosses. Then I got into mascara and eye shadows. As far as foundation, I still don't wear it on the regular, just on special occassions. Everything I know about make up, I found through the internet and friends.
The main thing that I do is my eye shadows! LOVE them. I think my eyes are my best features so I like to make that my focus. For eyeshadows, I use mostly Covergirl. Their Queen Collection (QC) line is pretty good. I have trio and quad palettes like Golden Sunset, Dazzling Metallics, Coffee Shop, and Desert Bronze (which is from the QC). I have singles like Emerald and Copper Penny (which are both from the QC). I have a quad of purples that my friend gave me from a line called Ulta. As far as everyday wear, I stick to golds, bronzes, and earth tones. I like to play with colors like purple and green, depends on the shade of the color. I haven't really tried any other colors though. I like metallics for when I go out. And the classic smokey eye for special occassions. As far as eyeliner, I'll use anything. I just buy the cheap liner from the beauty supply stores. I have tried a few things as far as mascara. I have used Mabelline XXL Extensions--great if you like long and thick lashes. I have also used Colossal Volum' by Maybelline--hated it! Maybe I had a defective tube, but it was super messy and clumpy! I have Wet n' Wild Mega Volume for the days when I want super thick lashes--love this one. I also have Maybelline's Lash Stiletto--absolutely adore this mascara! Best I've used yet! It's great if you like your lashes long. I usually use 2-3 coats and get the thickness that I like, too.
Love the luscious lips! I use alot of different things on my lips, from glosses to chap sticks to colors. I'll just share my fav products for this section. I like Rimmel's Lasting Finish Lipstick. I have it in Birthday Suit and Fudge Brownie. BS is more of a nude color, I wear it under my tinted glosses for a pop of color. FB is a soft brown color that I wear alone. Sometime's I'll even mix the two. They are great, though! I have Avon Glazewear in Chocolate Fling. It's great, nice and creamy, shimmery finish. Umm...Covergirl Wetslicks Wine Shine. This one doesn't last that long, but the color and shine is great! I LOVE Bath and Body Works lip glosses! I have their Liplicious in Brown Sugar. It tastes great, has a super smooth and shiny finish, sheer tone, it's just great! I also have their Soda Fountain in Hot Fudge Sundae (which they discontinued *sad face*). As far as lip colors, I stick to sheer browns, bronzes, and wine colors. I have never tried the red lip. I don't know what shade would look good on my skin tone.
The foundations that I do own....a color from the Covergirl QC called True Ebony and a color from Mary Kay Bronze 2. I am very careful what I put on my skin as far as foundations go. I have SUPER Oily skin, it's unbelieveable. I don't break out as much as I used to, but I do suffer the occasional pimple because of oiliness. Neither one of my foundations help with oiliness. If I could find a product that did, I would definitely try it out. I am not that willing to put my time and money into figuring out which products work for my skin type, because I don't want to be disappointed and broke! So I skip on the foundation! Any suggestions are definitely welcome, though.
Hmmm...I think that's it. I hope this isn't too long.
Oh, and I don't use blush. I always thought it wasn't necessary because black girls don't blush so I just never incorporated it into my routine.
Any tips, tricks, colors, and/or suggestions...are very welcome!
~LaDai
PS: I was super bored when I wrote this lol...and it took me forever...gave me something to do for a while though lol...
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Here I Am...
So I definitely have not updated my blog in a while! I have been super busy lately just getting everything together.
Okay so first thing first: I have officially declared my major! I am a Science Education, specifically Biology, major. Meeting with an academic counselor from the College of Education here has really put things into perspective for me. It feels like life's puzzle pieces are finally coming together. For a long time, I had been unsure about what I wanted to major in and where I wanted to go with that once I'm finished with school. I'm finally figuring it out! I also wrote out a life plan to help keep me focused on what I'd like to accomplish by the end of the semester all the way out to a year after I finish school. I feel really focused this semester to really stay on top of things and get it done!
Secondly: I love my hair! I don't know if I said it before in another post (most likely not) but I got another haircut around late August and I love it! I'm really working this short hair! I went a little shorter this time than I had before. My plan is to go shorter with every haircut, maybe until there's no more left to cut. I kind of want to see if I can rock something a bit longer than a fade, still something feminine, of course. But I take style tips from other short styles I see in magazines or on other women and I incorporate what I like into my own style and play around with what works for my own length and specific cut.
For anyone trying to get into a routine for their hair, it definitely is alot of work in the beginning, but it does get easier. I promise! The hardest part is just figuring out what products work for your hair, but once you figure that out, it's pretty easy from there. As far as my own hair care regimen, I will gladly share! I have been doing this for a couple weeks now:
I wash and condition about once a week with the moisturizing shampoo and moisturizing conditioner with shae butter from a line called Influance (http://www.influancehaircare.com/). It leaves my hair so soft and shiny! (I recommend this product to anyone looking for a great shampoo and contioner!) I was home at my parents house once and washed my hair without these products and I could really see the difference that these products make on my hair. Then I towel dry my hair and apply some Cantu Break Cure Strengthening Creme to it. I don't wrap my hair or anything, but I do apply some Motions Wrapping Lotion to my tapered sides and back so that the hair lays flat. From there, I let my hair air dry. I try as much as I can not to blow dry it because of all the heat styling I do, but I will occasionally. Once it's dry, I apply some Motions Hairdress and let that set in. Once I'm ready to curl/style I use some marcel curling wax by Softee. Then I use a little styling spritz by Pump It Up Regular Formula for hold (depends how I style it), but I try not to use too much because it dries out the hair. I restyle maybe about every other day and the heat from the iron reactivates the spritz so I don't reapply any spritz. I may add some Smooth N' Shine Polishing Gel to the sides and back because that part gets a little wild looking after sleeping lol...I also relax my hair as I feel I need to. New growth is more noticeable on my tapered sides and the back so I relax those parts maybe every 3-4 weeks. With the longer parts, I go every 6 weeks. I just switched to Dark N' Lovely from Africa's Best. DNL works so much better for me!
I would like to get back on my skin care regimen as well, but I don't know where to start. If you have any tips for me, let me know!
I know this is getting a little long so I'm going to end it here. I promise I'll be back to update sooner!
~LaDai
Okay so first thing first: I have officially declared my major! I am a Science Education, specifically Biology, major. Meeting with an academic counselor from the College of Education here has really put things into perspective for me. It feels like life's puzzle pieces are finally coming together. For a long time, I had been unsure about what I wanted to major in and where I wanted to go with that once I'm finished with school. I'm finally figuring it out! I also wrote out a life plan to help keep me focused on what I'd like to accomplish by the end of the semester all the way out to a year after I finish school. I feel really focused this semester to really stay on top of things and get it done!
Secondly: I love my hair! I don't know if I said it before in another post (most likely not) but I got another haircut around late August and I love it! I'm really working this short hair! I went a little shorter this time than I had before. My plan is to go shorter with every haircut, maybe until there's no more left to cut. I kind of want to see if I can rock something a bit longer than a fade, still something feminine, of course. But I take style tips from other short styles I see in magazines or on other women and I incorporate what I like into my own style and play around with what works for my own length and specific cut.
For anyone trying to get into a routine for their hair, it definitely is alot of work in the beginning, but it does get easier. I promise! The hardest part is just figuring out what products work for your hair, but once you figure that out, it's pretty easy from there. As far as my own hair care regimen, I will gladly share! I have been doing this for a couple weeks now:
I wash and condition about once a week with the moisturizing shampoo and moisturizing conditioner with shae butter from a line called Influance (http://www.influancehaircare.com/). It leaves my hair so soft and shiny! (I recommend this product to anyone looking for a great shampoo and contioner!) I was home at my parents house once and washed my hair without these products and I could really see the difference that these products make on my hair. Then I towel dry my hair and apply some Cantu Break Cure Strengthening Creme to it. I don't wrap my hair or anything, but I do apply some Motions Wrapping Lotion to my tapered sides and back so that the hair lays flat. From there, I let my hair air dry. I try as much as I can not to blow dry it because of all the heat styling I do, but I will occasionally. Once it's dry, I apply some Motions Hairdress and let that set in. Once I'm ready to curl/style I use some marcel curling wax by Softee. Then I use a little styling spritz by Pump It Up Regular Formula for hold (depends how I style it), but I try not to use too much because it dries out the hair. I restyle maybe about every other day and the heat from the iron reactivates the spritz so I don't reapply any spritz. I may add some Smooth N' Shine Polishing Gel to the sides and back because that part gets a little wild looking after sleeping lol...I also relax my hair as I feel I need to. New growth is more noticeable on my tapered sides and the back so I relax those parts maybe every 3-4 weeks. With the longer parts, I go every 6 weeks. I just switched to Dark N' Lovely from Africa's Best. DNL works so much better for me!
I would like to get back on my skin care regimen as well, but I don't know where to start. If you have any tips for me, let me know!
I know this is getting a little long so I'm going to end it here. I promise I'll be back to update sooner!
~LaDai
Friday, August 7, 2009
Hmm...
Regardles of my successes, sometimes I wonder if I failed anyway for not setting my standards higher.
Anyway...I'm excited to go home for 2 weeks! I definitely need this "vacation" lol... I plan to do nothing at all. Might hit the beach. That's all, though.
Anyway...I'm excited to go home for 2 weeks! I definitely need this "vacation" lol... I plan to do nothing at all. Might hit the beach. That's all, though.
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Super Busy
So school has kept me super busy with everything! There's only one more week left. I'm so happy! I've been feeling so drained lately. I'm good, though!
I haven't really had any inspiration to write about anything lately. Not even my hair.
But since I'm on the subject lol...
I haven't really been feeling my hair lately. It's growing out and getting to be a weird "in between" length. It's too long to wear it how I usually do, but still too short to do anything else. I've been able to experiment with different styles, so that's a good thing about the length. I secretly had an impulse earlier to just let it grow, but I love my short cut! So I have decided I'm going to get it cut next time I go home. I also had another impulse to just cut it all off (I have random impulses to do things sometimes). That way I won't even have to be bothered with any hair!
At this point in my life, I'm just tired of having hair (as weird as that may sound)! I don't want to be limited or put into any box based on who/what people assume I am based on what my hair looks like. I just feel like everything is conformist in some way. I don't even want to wear a bra anymore lol...
Anywho...that's my piece for now. Hopefully I'll be back sooner than it took me this time to get back!
~LaDai
I haven't really had any inspiration to write about anything lately. Not even my hair.
But since I'm on the subject lol...
I haven't really been feeling my hair lately. It's growing out and getting to be a weird "in between" length. It's too long to wear it how I usually do, but still too short to do anything else. I've been able to experiment with different styles, so that's a good thing about the length. I secretly had an impulse earlier to just let it grow, but I love my short cut! So I have decided I'm going to get it cut next time I go home. I also had another impulse to just cut it all off (I have random impulses to do things sometimes). That way I won't even have to be bothered with any hair!
At this point in my life, I'm just tired of having hair (as weird as that may sound)! I don't want to be limited or put into any box based on who/what people assume I am based on what my hair looks like. I just feel like everything is conformist in some way. I don't even want to wear a bra anymore lol...
Anywho...that's my piece for now. Hopefully I'll be back sooner than it took me this time to get back!
~LaDai
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
I'm So Excited!
So lately I have just been living life and enjoying every minute of it!
School started Monday so I'm pretty busy with that. Being in class all day is draining, but I finally feel complete (lol). I love school! I enjoy learning new things. Although I love summer too, I was getting tired of just hanging out all day! So I take American National Government, unfortunately, and I also take African History After 1870. I could care less for my first class, it was either that or economics, so I'm just gonna stick with it. I love my second class though. The professor is very passionate.
I am also a peer mentor for a freshman intro class. I really do enjoy my position! I was that student just last year so now getting to work with them from a 2nd year perspective is really cool. They're a quiet and shy bunch. We've only had 3 days of classes so far, but I'm sure they'll come out of their shells soon. They're just a little nervous right now, figuring out how to adjust to their new settings.
There's also a new guy in my life. *smile* He's a little rough around the edges, but he's so very sweet! I won't say too much about that, though. Ha ha!
I'm going on a family trip for July 4th to visit some other family in North Florida. I can't wait! We're going to have a good time!
I believe that is all! Until next time...
~LaDai
School started Monday so I'm pretty busy with that. Being in class all day is draining, but I finally feel complete (lol). I love school! I enjoy learning new things. Although I love summer too, I was getting tired of just hanging out all day! So I take American National Government, unfortunately, and I also take African History After 1870. I could care less for my first class, it was either that or economics, so I'm just gonna stick with it. I love my second class though. The professor is very passionate.
I am also a peer mentor for a freshman intro class. I really do enjoy my position! I was that student just last year so now getting to work with them from a 2nd year perspective is really cool. They're a quiet and shy bunch. We've only had 3 days of classes so far, but I'm sure they'll come out of their shells soon. They're just a little nervous right now, figuring out how to adjust to their new settings.
There's also a new guy in my life. *smile* He's a little rough around the edges, but he's so very sweet! I won't say too much about that, though. Ha ha!
I'm going on a family trip for July 4th to visit some other family in North Florida. I can't wait! We're going to have a good time!
I believe that is all! Until next time...
~LaDai
Friday, June 26, 2009
It's About That Time
So I think I'm gonna relax my hair today. My new growth does feel good to me don't get me wrong. BUT (there's always a but), I can't deal with it in my short style.
I do feel bad about it because I know what I'm really doing to my hair (and my identity indirectly). Lately I've been reading hair blogs and all that good stuff.
It is what it is!
~LaDai
I do feel bad about it because I know what I'm really doing to my hair (and my identity indirectly). Lately I've been reading hair blogs and all that good stuff.
It is what it is!
~LaDai
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Happy Father's Day!
...To all the fathers out there taking care of business and all the mothers and grandparents who work hard and stepped up to the plate to be mom and dad for any child(ren)!!
I'm lucky to have my dad in my life. My parents have been married for 17 years now. Growing up, sometimes I didn't really understand how good I had it. Within the last few years, I've definitely been able to see and understand the sacrifices my dad has made and makes everyday to keep us happy. I love the man that he is! I truly strive to be like my father--just to be as loving, caring, kind, and selfless as he has become. I thank God everyday for him!
I pray that I can have a husband in my life someday like my father. A man who loves me unconditionally, just as my father has loved my mother, and someone who is willing to make whatever sacrifice or compromise to keep our family happy!
...Just a little bit more of me!
~LaDai
I'm lucky to have my dad in my life. My parents have been married for 17 years now. Growing up, sometimes I didn't really understand how good I had it. Within the last few years, I've definitely been able to see and understand the sacrifices my dad has made and makes everyday to keep us happy. I love the man that he is! I truly strive to be like my father--just to be as loving, caring, kind, and selfless as he has become. I thank God everyday for him!
I pray that I can have a husband in my life someday like my father. A man who loves me unconditionally, just as my father has loved my mother, and someone who is willing to make whatever sacrifice or compromise to keep our family happy!
...Just a little bit more of me!
~LaDai
Why you do that there?
The question was, "Why would you put something in your hair, that you have to use gloves on your hands, to get it in your hair? If it's not safe for your skin, you'd assume it isn't safe for your hair," in reference to why anyone would bother to relax their hair.
I don't have an answer for that question. I said why I relaxed my hair in a previous post. Initially, it was just to fit in, but I can't tell you why I still get my hair relaxed. As a matter of fact, I just bought a relaxer the other day. I find it ironic that the hair companies wouldn't name a relaxer anything other than "african". African Pride. Africa's Best. Really? I think not!
The more and more I think about going natural, the more and more I get frustrated with my relaxed hair. Anything but relaxing.
~LaDai
I don't have an answer for that question. I said why I relaxed my hair in a previous post. Initially, it was just to fit in, but I can't tell you why I still get my hair relaxed. As a matter of fact, I just bought a relaxer the other day. I find it ironic that the hair companies wouldn't name a relaxer anything other than "african". African Pride. Africa's Best. Really? I think not!
The more and more I think about going natural, the more and more I get frustrated with my relaxed hair. Anything but relaxing.
~LaDai
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Don't Get Your Hair Wet !!
So two things happened to me today: I went to the pool and then got caught in the rain!
So I went to the pool today and my intentions were to just chill poolside in my bikini and look cute. Who was I kidding, this is Florida!! It was so hot and humid today, I had no choice but to get in.
I feel like there's so many unnecessary things to worry about as a black girl on the poolside (or at the beach or lake wherever you're from). I can either just take a dip in the water, be cute, and not get my hair wet--OR--get in the water, have fun, BUT then be ashy and have messy hair afterwards.
So I got in and just chilled, didn't do too much, all because of my hair. I still had a good time, though, don't get me wrong. My whole plan was to not have to wash my hair at the end of the day (and be cute sitting by the pool). So I did that. I even met some guy who thought I was good looking enough to come over and talk to me.
But after all this and keeping my hair in mind, I got caught in the rain! (Every girl's nightmare right?) I even cancelled my date tonight with a nice guy! I told him it was because of the horrible weather! When in reality, it was because now I had to shower AND wash my hair and all that extra jazziness. I don't even know why I put so much energy into not getting my hair wet at the pool, besides the fact that I got rained on.
I can even remember being young getting in the tub for a bath and Mama hollered from the kitchen, "Don't get your hair wet!" If you're anything like me, the bath tub wasn't just where you bathed, that's where you went swimming too. LOL !!
Why is it that I (and the rest of black women who share my sentiment) just can't go to the pool, get my hair wet and all, without having to be worried about what people will think of my hair when they see what happens when water has it's way?
...If I was natural, I'd be good!
~LaDai
So I went to the pool today and my intentions were to just chill poolside in my bikini and look cute. Who was I kidding, this is Florida!! It was so hot and humid today, I had no choice but to get in.
I feel like there's so many unnecessary things to worry about as a black girl on the poolside (or at the beach or lake wherever you're from). I can either just take a dip in the water, be cute, and not get my hair wet--OR--get in the water, have fun, BUT then be ashy and have messy hair afterwards.
So I got in and just chilled, didn't do too much, all because of my hair. I still had a good time, though, don't get me wrong. My whole plan was to not have to wash my hair at the end of the day (and be cute sitting by the pool). So I did that. I even met some guy who thought I was good looking enough to come over and talk to me.
But after all this and keeping my hair in mind, I got caught in the rain! (Every girl's nightmare right?) I even cancelled my date tonight with a nice guy! I told him it was because of the horrible weather! When in reality, it was because now I had to shower AND wash my hair and all that extra jazziness. I don't even know why I put so much energy into not getting my hair wet at the pool, besides the fact that I got rained on.
I can even remember being young getting in the tub for a bath and Mama hollered from the kitchen, "Don't get your hair wet!" If you're anything like me, the bath tub wasn't just where you bathed, that's where you went swimming too. LOL !!
Why is it that I (and the rest of black women who share my sentiment) just can't go to the pool, get my hair wet and all, without having to be worried about what people will think of my hair when they see what happens when water has it's way?
...If I was natural, I'd be good!
~LaDai
Monday, June 15, 2009
Soon To Be Happily Nappy
So I'm finally back to do my next post. Umm I don't really know what I want to write about in specific, but I'm just gonna type away...
So I think it started when I was 12 or 13 when I noticed my hair was "different". I was the little girl in 6th grade still getting my hair washed and straightened with a hotcomb weekly. It was then that I was made to feel bad about not having a perm. The other girls in class teased me because my hair was nappy. I thought the hotcomb was something every girl went through and was still going through at that stage in life. I finally gave in to the pressure. Not just the peer pressure, but the societal pressures that say straight hair is "good" hair. I was made to feel that my nappy hair was a bad thing. I would go home crying from the hurt I felt from the other girls. I remember BEGGING my mother for a perm. It was then that I became a victim to the "creamy crack". But I was "happy" because I finally fit in. The teasing stopped because my hair was finally less than what it was meant to be. I never thought twice about my hair being nappy. I was happy.
Ever since then, I haven't been able to get off the perm. I've always felt like I would just feel better, feel free, if my hair was natural. I've tried many times to transition to natural, but part of me can't let go of this relaxed mess I call hair. My mom has been natural multiple times so I know it's in me to do the same without being scared. I don't know what it is that can't let it go. I feel like going natural would definitely be a process of not only transitioning, but of self rediscovery. I'm definitely ready to discover new things about myself and my hair.
Right now I'm rocking a short haircut. I would say it's a bit 90's-Halle-ish, but I've worked it for my style and it works for me. Everytime I get it cut, I go shorter and shorter, and feel better about going natural. One day I'm just gonna cut it all off and be done with it!
I know that so many other women can relate. So here's to beginning anew and discovering who we are! (Someday) I'll be Happily Nappy!
~LaDai
So I think it started when I was 12 or 13 when I noticed my hair was "different". I was the little girl in 6th grade still getting my hair washed and straightened with a hotcomb weekly. It was then that I was made to feel bad about not having a perm. The other girls in class teased me because my hair was nappy. I thought the hotcomb was something every girl went through and was still going through at that stage in life. I finally gave in to the pressure. Not just the peer pressure, but the societal pressures that say straight hair is "good" hair. I was made to feel that my nappy hair was a bad thing. I would go home crying from the hurt I felt from the other girls. I remember BEGGING my mother for a perm. It was then that I became a victim to the "creamy crack". But I was "happy" because I finally fit in. The teasing stopped because my hair was finally less than what it was meant to be. I never thought twice about my hair being nappy. I was happy.
Ever since then, I haven't been able to get off the perm. I've always felt like I would just feel better, feel free, if my hair was natural. I've tried many times to transition to natural, but part of me can't let go of this relaxed mess I call hair. My mom has been natural multiple times so I know it's in me to do the same without being scared. I don't know what it is that can't let it go. I feel like going natural would definitely be a process of not only transitioning, but of self rediscovery. I'm definitely ready to discover new things about myself and my hair.
Right now I'm rocking a short haircut. I would say it's a bit 90's-Halle-ish, but I've worked it for my style and it works for me. Everytime I get it cut, I go shorter and shorter, and feel better about going natural. One day I'm just gonna cut it all off and be done with it!
I know that so many other women can relate. So here's to beginning anew and discovering who we are! (Someday) I'll be Happily Nappy!
~LaDai
Friday, June 12, 2009
My First Official Blog
Just wanted to establish my first official post for my first blog.
Well, I'm starting this blog as another way to connect to other people out there and share my experiences. I am thinking of blogging about my hair experiences and other things as they come along. I'm not much of a writer, so what you read here is just me and my thoughts and/or opinions, take it or leave it. I believe that's all. So, when I get my thoughts together, I will be back!
~LaDai
Well, I'm starting this blog as another way to connect to other people out there and share my experiences. I am thinking of blogging about my hair experiences and other things as they come along. I'm not much of a writer, so what you read here is just me and my thoughts and/or opinions, take it or leave it. I believe that's all. So, when I get my thoughts together, I will be back!
~LaDai
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